How To Help Someone Who Won T Help Themselves. It can take time for someone to feel able to talk openly, and putting pressure on them to talk might make them feel less comfortable telling you about their experiences. If someone you love won’t help themselves, don’t turn your back on them.
When you find yourself wanting to help people who won't help themselves, change your response to their helplessness. One of the most frustrating things a lot of us come across in life is resistance when we try to lend a genuine helping hand. Conversely, if you don't want to do it, then don't.
I Recently Had A Conversation With Someone About How To Help Someone Who Won’t Help Themselves.
Many believe that only the addict can help themselves. People are naturally inclined to want to control aspects of their lives. Force someone to talk to you.
The Closest Thing It Says About It Is In Instructions To The Church.
Loving someone who needs help but won’t accept it is exhausting. The fact still remains….don’t even try to tell the obese person to lose weight, don’t bother telling them they are obese, don’t suggest diets/gym/exercise, don’t bother throwing out junk food nor ever buying it, don’t bother being a helpie kelpie and making cauliflower fried rice instead of normal rice….it just won’t help, it. Offer to go with them for the initial assessment or ask if they would like you.
They Might Be Completely Unaware Of Their Impact On Those Around Them.
If you’re trying to help someone who doesn’t want help, it probably feels frustrating, exhausting, scary… and out of your control. But you don't have to wait for someone to hit rock bottom to act. This made me think back to my teens and 20’s.
From 49:30 Minutes On, He Describes When, How To Talk.
When you do it, do it because you want to and can let go of your expectations about the person's response; Until they do, help them along by being a friend, but don’t engage in crazy behavior with them. ~ if you need help immediately, please search this list of crisis lines and centers.
In Many Cases They Simply May Not Be Ready.
Someone who doesn’t know how to help themselves, may hurt themselves in an attempt to feel better. Don't help people who won't help themselves. This is true for you and for your family member.